I'm hopping on the blog tonight for a post with a topic so important that even though I'd like to be passed out on the couch, I'm forcing my brain to formulate coherent sentences: YOU AND YOUR BODY.
We were closed for a few days (and we're getting ready to close again*) and with the fluctuation in our holiday schedule, we've had a high volume of Mama's MilkBoxes both in and out of the warehouse with a lot of feedback to process in the past 3 days. We read everything - especially on your feedback cards. And I noticed one coherent theme from our subscribers: Moms who wish their body was this or that or - basically - anything that is not their body as it is right now.
Maybe it's all the holidays we had or the impending "New Year's Resolutions" right around the corner, but the slightly larger than usual number of subscribers who don't want to pull the trigger on items they love because they wish to be a smaller size, or want to wait until they are a smaller size, has raised enough of a red flag that I'm grabbing this speaker phone called the internet to tell you:
You are so much more than a size.
And where you are right now? It's where you are supposed to be.
I've been selling maternity and nursing clothes for over 2 years and I've always had a wish that I can't fulfill because of this thing called the Federal Trade Commission and a variety of "rules" that they call "Regulations." It relates to labels and garments and basically, my wish that they won't let me fulfill?
I would love to sell clothes without size labels.
My private clients can give you the same speech I've given them a hundred times: buying maternity and nursing clothes is a lot like buying a bridesmaid dress; you could be a size 4 but you have to order a 16. So don't worry about the size.
I mean, re these sizes - why do we have them? Well, for the purpose of making clothes, having a guideline is helpful - but really, please hear me - there is NO UNIVERSAL SIZING GUIDELINE. And while I can't speak for all the other retailers out there, I can speak for Mama's MilkBox and let you know: our clothes come from all over the world.
All that being said, that is why the focus of Mama's MilkBox is always on fit and style. I scour the globe to find the best and most beautiful clothes for breastfeeding Moms and we use the information from your profile and our knowledge of fabrics, style and material cut to send you clothes we think you'll love in the "sizes" that will fit you best.
Going back to these words which we have placed so much value on ("Small", "Medium", "Large", "Extra Large" - even beyond) - can you do something for me? It's a 2016 New Year's Resolution ... Can you recognize that those labels are just words and letters printed on a small piece of paper and instead of thinking of them as something to achieve or obtain, can you repeat after me:
I am exactly where I am supposed to be
And if you're buying clothes because this place that you're in doesn't quite have a shirt that fits like it used to or the shirts that you have require you to expose otherwise normally covered parts of your body, can you disregard that sewn in fabric with words and just put the item on and take a look at yourself in the mirror and ask: Do I look good? (If not, take that off! haha) But if you kind of like that reflection, further ask: Am I comfortable? Do I feel good?
If the answer is yes, yes and YES, then dear Mom - PLEASE buy yourself those clothes that fit. I mean that with such a deep sincerity that you can envision me saying it to you in the same way that Stacy and Clinton of "What Not To Wear" run circles around their makeover participants.
For the record, I completely understand. I do! I spent 2 hours just yesterday trying to buy myself a pair of jeans. Through the process, it was hard to see myself in the mirror in a pair of jeans that didn't look exactly the way I used to look in a pair of jeans 4 years ago or even 2 years ago. But I gave myself the same pep talk that I've given you above and in the same way I hope it inspires you, it reminded me that it was okay to purchase the pair of jeans that I truly loved. Was it the "size" I wanted? Probably not. (Why is that previous answer not a yes or no? Because I can't remember - Honestly .. cross my heart) - Because I am between a variety of sizes when it comes to pants so I just grabbed them all, tried them on and kept the one pair that let me squat without showing butt crack, looked really good on, felt really good and paired well with the 2 pairs of shoes I wear all the time.
There is no doubt I love fashion. But good style (the kind of vibe that emits, "I look good") goes beyond clothes; it goes hand in hand with self love. I want you to like the you that's you. I want you to embrace the you that's you. And when this amazing, wonderful, version of you that your beautiful children love every day - even in the complete dark - fully embraces that this is where you are supposed to be, I want you to take that leap and embrace YOU and buy that [fill in the blank] when it fits and you love it! You deserve it. Just like the previous non-Mommy version of you deserved to walk around in clothes that fit and that you liked, you deserve it. You're the same person. And you're exactly where you're supposed to be.
Now I really must go to bed.
* Please note we will be closed from January 1 - January 8th to have some fun with our family, clean up our warehouse, prepare new arrivals for shipment and more.
Mama's MilkBox is a nursing apparel subscription service for breastfeeding Moms who want to look good, feel good and breastfeed their baby. For only $39/box, their fabulous stylists hand select the best in breastfeeding fashion, then wrap it like a present and send it straight to your door.
Moms take care of everyone and everything and Mama's MilkBox takes care of you.
My name is Elena aka The Breastfeeding Stylist and the creator of Mama's MilkBox and Carmen.
We have one mission here at Mama's MilkBox: help Moms find their "old" fabulous selves in their new normal.